I’m not completely comfortable with all of, “A Mom” 's assertions or her delivery, but her larger point is not only correct; it’s obvious. One need only look at our current demographics for confirmation. I lack the time, at the moment, to expound further on that.
I confess to amusement at the posts from the usual suspects, taking the ‘nothing to see here, move along’ response…it just can’t be anything to do with feminism.
Okay, the goal was to shift the culture, women shouldn’t be dependent upon a man, and we did. Women are raised to be independent as the author asserts, often by mothers themselves forced to be independent. The feminist credo, women don’t need men, has been realized. Okay, now what? Women turn thirty, look around, and all the men are gone. They’re not really gone, but there’s a great likelihood that they’re either married or not interested in being married, many of them stuck in a prolonged adolescence they see no reason to end. There’s no need for them. Absent any need, with sex readily available without commitment, let alone marriage, the needs of men become simplified; rent, beer, cable TV. Men don’t have anything to work for that requires real work and even sacrifice. At least nothing they want that badly.
It probably sounds puritanical, because the last thing anyone can question in the age of political correctness is premarital sex, but our culture has successfully removed the single greatest motivating factor in the lives of young men; the acquisition of sex. They used to have to marry a girl to reliably access it. Again, grandma was correct; why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? We know what that’s done for men, and we won’t hear men objecting. Women, on the other hand, just took their AAA bond rating and downgraded it to junk status. Not individually, but collectively, because we raised them to one, not ever be dependent on a man and two, save sex for marriage, but if you don’t, don’t worry about it because everybody does it.
The irony, of course, is that most women don’t want to be independent; they want a relationship with a man, with children perhaps, but certainly a relationship that involves the satisfaction from being mutually dependent upon one another. Men? They’re long gone. All they ever had to offer was hard work, the ability to being home the bacon, and do the heavy lifting. Today’s woman beings home her own bacon, and hires out the rest. Today’s man is therefore perfecting his halfback screen plays on Madden '12 versus busting his ass for some woman.
Young women, even feminists, didn’t really set out to have these results, but they could have been predicted, couldn’t they? They got sold a bill of goods. Now they’re discovering that, not only can you not have it all, if you follow the preferred cultural path, you may have a lot, but you maybe having it alone.