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What I found myself caught up in was this style of gossiping:
As in, “Can you believe Mrs. So-and-So allows her 16 yr old to go carousing all hours of the night?!” When it was known as a FACT that she did.
And I’d respond with, “No, I can’t. And one of these days she’s going to regret it.”
Thing is, I knew it was useless to confront Mrs. So-and-So, but more to the point, was none of my business..
Now, I’m not talking the church social. I’m talking amongst close friends. Thing is, admittedly, it wasn’t only to warn your child off that ne’er-do-well; it was to find ourselves superior to that.
“Mrs. Jones keeps portraying all this education she has, yet is not successful.”
Me: “It’s sure enough a curiosity!” “Can’t find a job, is as poor as the day is long, keeps making excuses…”
Maybe not “gossip”, per se, but I’m ashamed.
I’m trying awfully hard to get out of that habit. Talking behind people’s backs may not be gossip, but it most assuredly is not kind.
You, and the like, push my efforts toward that end, and I thank you.
[/quote]I deserve no thanks, Dear Lady. I just think we all discuss others, because we do not have time to make all the mistakes in life, ourselves. The question is, did you do this to injure? To humiliate? To feel superior? Well that may be cause for concern, but once again, you did not put this on the “waves” for all to see.
Search your soul. If you are ashamed, Maybe the Spirit is speaking to your spirit. I cannot judge that, for you, but in my opinion, you are kinder than I am, which really isn’t saying much, but you have gained my respect while I have been here and I simply cannot imagine you to be a gossip. I think it is a testimony to your character, that this bothers you. You have gained even more respect, for that.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. We are all imperfect and fall short. Believe me, I am honored to know you.