Hearts and Minds or Molotovs

I’m talking with a girl who fled Hungary for Norway. I’m asking her should I stay change hearts and minds or will Molotovs work what the hell should I do here. I can’t stand back and let this happen. I know I’m bad as J6 but unlike MS Junior Valedictorian of the year who got a Norwegian grant I don’t have that option. Yes I’m talking to an expat from Hungary about how to restore sanity what do you people respond to sincere talk or fear?