Several days ago, I passed my 60th birthday. I would like to use the word “celebrated” but that is not accurate. My life is overall good; I have a wife who means everything to me, has been undyingly loyal, as have been my two children. I am quite proud of both of my children and my wife. I cannot say otherwise that there are no complaints.
Physically I am doing well, for which I am grateful. Of course there are the usual issues; thinning hair, a bit too much weight, and a slower jogging pace. The losses over the decade, however, or more profound and troubling. Going to my 50s, I was a long time member of a closely knit law firm. On the surface, everybody cared about everybody. With several notable exceptions, this was illusory. Several of the people have remained close and loyal, but the fabric was frayed and ultimately broke for reasons relating to developments in the practice of law.
I am now productively and somewhat happily involved in my own practice and appearing of counsel to other firms. The idea of retirement does not appeal to me, especially since I have at least one third of my life left, and want to remain active throughout.
Without mincing words, the losses have been among family and friends. Certain of those losses are through death and illness. Others were fallout from the recent presidential election. Others mystify me more because I have always assumed that the need for friends was ingrained into the human psyche.
Instead, most people I have known a long time are on the surface friendly, but avoid or cannot wait to end conversations. Maybe it’s technology. Maybe it’s just being in the 50s and 60s. However, I do not want to be too negative since many of the friends and family members both that I have lost or that remain were good to me well beyond the call of duty on numerous occasions. I hope I returned the friendships amply.
In sending this message, I wish to express gratitude for the years of friendship and hope for many more such years. I look forward to more good times, and wish everyone a happy Pesach or happy Easte