First of all, let my say that I don’t know anything about the allegations or varacity thereof; I’m just going to address posts:
I missed the word “need” in your quote. As others have pointed out, some guys are gentleman enough to do it as a courtesy; and abide by it if the answer is no.
As alluded to, although not practiced much these days, it is still done; some guys do still believe in being a gentleman. Whatever the truth of the matter in question, this is a bad argument.
And sometimes still is done.
By the way, good to “see” you again!