Many people go to relatives for gatherings at Thanksgiving and one complain I have seen through the years are those who come who never help prepare the meal or clean up. There are the family members who are supposed to bring a dish and never do or after saying they will be there do not show up.
The last time in my family was when family members showed up and barely touched their meal and then ran. This was particularly erroneous because food preparation was geared to this person’s favorite food.
As for the cleanup, I always stayed to help for that but there were always those who thought they did not have to help.
I am sure others have their thanksgiving misgiving with relatives.